Let’s make one thing clear, blokes are good at playing games like football, or monopoly, and some of us even like a bit of chess as it means we can dress up in a smoking jacket and have a cigar, but playing hard to get is one game that really does elude the male species.
That’s because it’s not really a guy thing. When it comes to girls, if we are interested, we will usually follow up a date with a phone call or a text pretty much straight away and show our hand. However, if we don’t reply for a few days, then it’s because we're not really interested. There is no grand courting master plan behind it; it's pretty much black and white.
As a guy doing the chasing though, I for one enjoy the challenge when a girl plays hard to get, obviously not in the same manner as Benny Hill running after girls in a barn stacked of hay, but still, it can be a highly enjoyable and rewarding pursuit if you take it for what it is.
In a crude but simple way to look at it, what’s more attractive? A girl that is all flirty, texting and emailing you 36 times a day to ask how you are or interrogating each ingredient inside your lunchbox (pardon the pun)? Or a girl who is quite mysterious, and comes across as cool and suave, and will reply to your messages, but with a bit of intrigue?
Speaking from personal experience, I have been on dates, where uber flirtation and communication has led me to being a bit complacent and not really interested as there is no excitement for a chase. I have sat opposite a girl at a restaurant and hid behind the menu thinking ‘Should I just order dessert and forget the mains’. I even sat there one time thinking of elaborate excuses to make as a quick getaway. My favourite one was ‘I’m sorry but I have to go, I think I left a quiche in the oven’.
However, I can honestly say a girl playing hard to get has made me raise my game, and I don't mean going from Jenga to Scrabble. What I do mean is when I went out; I took a keen interest in my date. I was interested in what she had to say, there was more interaction, conversations were more engaging because I didn’t take her for granted and there was a possibility I may not see her again.
The banter and affection running through the times we spent together at the early stages of going out meant I was genuinely attracted and wanted to find out more. The wait in between dates made me even more excited to see her. So I was confident and persistent that it would be worth it in the end.
However on one occasion, she did risk playing with fire when she told me a guy from work had asked her out. Well, I can tell you, in the playing hard to get stakes; nothing motivates someone quite like jealousy. Although harmless, it put me on a quest, to crush the opposition and I was more determined to 'win' the game. So what did I do? Why, I turned the courting up a notch of course. So my next act in the pursuit of happiness and bliss included flowers and a gift delivered to her workplace.
‘Ha, in your face work colleague’ Oh I can just see his face, peering over the desk eating his digestive biscuit while she smiles and smells the flowers. Queue phone calls and texts from one delighted ecstatic lady and the much enjoyable pursuit was at an end. The hard to get girl had been got.
Maybe I’m old fashioned in the sense that I enjoy the chase, it’s the exciting nerves you feel when you think you have made the breakthrough, and all the time and energy you have put in combined with strange sense of patience, and persistence, finally pays off.
The relationship had a certain spark and chemistry that was built on her playing hard to get. I will admit guys do need to be strong willed and confident in this game, but they also need to be quite laid back. The girl too needs to know her limits, as there is playing hard to get, and then there is disappearing off the radar as if you have emigrated to the high mountains of Nepal
Peace love & happiness.
TanRockstar
